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Everyone has
the ability to fully evolve on their own, therefore, martyring yourself
for others is unnecessary... for the martyr, it is unhealthy and just
plain self-defeating. It is only through becoming healthy
self-contained individuals that we actually have something of true
value to share. A healthy individual feels no need to give more of
themselves than they can safely/honestly/lovingly offer to the whole...
the whole is strongest when each of its individual parts is healthy and
whole in and of themselves!!!! The guilt that many of us are
feeling and/or have felt in this lifetime is that we currently are not once again
sharing everything that we have to the point of
self-exhaustion/self-destruction. Instead, this time around, many of us
are here to learn to be
just for ourselves and to enjoy our beingness to its fullest extent
possible as a fully self-contained individual. That is why us older
souls in this life do not always have others flocking to us just
because we have the answers. Our current spiritual blueprint says we
must learn to not over-extend ourselves to others as we do not owe them
such a sacrifice; nobody truly does owe such an unhealthy sharing of
oneself. Over-extending
oneself actually is a disservice to others as it teaches others to
sacrifice themselves out of guilt, not true love. True love never needs
to sacrifice anything at all! The only true demonstration of true and
unconditional love is to love oneself completely in such a way that not
a single part of yourself suffers in any way, shape, or form!!!
Martyrdom is the most
insidious act one can perform! It forces others to be
victims so that we have someone to assist for our own
self-gratification. That is pure manipulation and causes others to
deprecate themselves in the hopes that you will love them enough to try
to heal them! And they will never heal because they want to keep on
being ill so that the martyr will continue to notice them. We therefore
cause others to be less then whole so that there is a reason to "love
each other". We
humans have a NEED to be NEEDY or else we feel that we don't belong to
humanity. When evolving souls discover the power in being unhealthy,
they will intentionally create disease within themselves in order to
try to maintain ties to those around them who seek out others to
administer assistance. Even older souls will embrace passive illnesses
as a way to stay connected to the lesser evolved group of souls that
they are ascending away from out of the fear of not
knowing/realizing that they will be part of an even greater loving
group of higher evolved beings after their personal ascension.
Thus martyrs often have a
fear of success! The fear of the unknown creates a fear to not succeed
for fear that they will not fit in elsewhere. That they will not belong
to their new category of evolved/evolving souls. For the spiritually
sleeping human it appears that accepting far less for oneself is
preferable to taking the chance on the unknown. Thus many souls accept
being either a victim or a martyr or even both simultaneously!
Embracing being a martyr
is so deceptively self deceiving! We get drawn into a belief system
that sacrificing our self for others is so glorious; that we are doing
spirit's work. And yet that is a total illusion for each and every soul
is whole and complete within themselves and requires not one iota of
outside assistance! Far better for us to live as an example of a well
balanced soul who is complete and self-loving than it is to reflect
other's misconstrued beliefs that they are defective and require
permanent crutches in the form of other's martyring themselves for
them. It
is true that massive victim-hood and martyring is a way of life in this
third dimensional realty. All souls must partake of those concepts in
order to master the experience that teaches that true self-love hurts
no one and in fact honors everyone. And once one reaches that
incarnation that is to take them back to their spiritual roots they
must sever all desire to manipulate through passive illness and/or
martyrdom. Transcending
martyrdom takes initiative and a degree of self discipline. One must
stop doing for others what they can do for themselves. One must
redefine their existence with the main goal of being whole for
themselves. Loving themselves, honoring their needs and desires. This
includes seeking out where they themselves embrace dis-ease in an
effort to attract others to them. Do not foster other's unhealthy
lifestyles and do not enable your own. Delve deep within to ferret out
all connections to such unhealthy beliefs. And then replace those
concepts with joy and self love. Become whole within yourself and you
will discover that others will follow your example and magically heal
themselves!
In memory of Greg
Kasperek who was a spiritual cosmic philosopher who counseled/taught
that understanding one's behaviors can open doors into your inner self.
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