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Every one of us, child or adult has an image of self – what
we are, what is expected of us and what we expect of our selves. We
build this image according to how we feel, in conjunction with the
input received from our parents, peers and other authority figures. In
addition, our genetic makeup must be considered as it determines our
basic behavior.
The experiences we have reinforce
this self-image 'good' or 'bad'. We act according to our self-image.
Then we judge our next performance, talk to ourselves about it,
reinforce our self-image and act accordingly.
Let's take this concept into our daily lives. We perform based on the
results from the self-image we have created: what one believes to be
true about themselves. For example if one has the image of being
ineffective as a salesperson, or a fear based on ineffectiveness, they
will have difficulties in that position. They keep receiving a message
from themselves that they are incapable of functioning effectively.
They may think of themselves as a poor communicator, and criticize
themselves for every faulty communication, reinforcing the poor
self-image. This begins the circle of trying to speak correctly
'getting it right' and failing to do so – thus reinforcing a negative
self-image as a person who cannot speak properly.
Naturally this is reflected in whatever skill you may require as part
of your career or personal life: reading, spelling, mathematics,
relationships, communication are only a few that result from poor
self-image.
When we meet others who are effective
with the skills we desire embarrassment is often created by accenting
our weakness. Often this results in avoidance of situations that accent
our poor performance. This can result in occupations or careers that
are less than one desires. One may even enter a relationship that does
not fulfill their needs, actually creating stress.
One may go to great lengths to have their 'ignorance' revealed. Often
to cover embarrassment one may 'act out', becoming the 'loner' or
'tough', or acting dumb. By acting dumb we assume, and since it is
common knowledge, we no longer need to put forth any effort.
Eventually, we give up all together, thus becoming even 'dumber' and
less effective.
This is where a method developed
by Three in One Concepts can be of assistance. It begins at the
self-image level, whether it reflects as a scholastic, relationship, or
career goal.
Using a unique method of muscle
response (such as many of the chiropractors use in ascertaining
muscular dysfunction) the practitioner is able to gain bio-feedback
from the body. Using the muscle is an extremely accurate method of
bypassing the conscious mind, as often our limiting self-image is
subconscious). With this method one can identify the person or
experience causing the lack of positive self-image.
The original cause of this lack of self-image may have come from a
trauma. Such trauma to one's self-esteem does not always occur
overnight. It occurs over time and may last for some time. No matter
how much we want to forget these past traumas, no matter how much it's
repressed, the memory is still alive. It is stored in our unique memory
system. Even though we may not consciously recall them, when making
choices in present, those memories unite with our present experiences
of life. Our past determines our emotional reactions today, and we base
our decisions on how we feel.
During this time one
often begins to deny their emotions. If we hold something within which
does not allow FREE movement of free expression, we further create
stress within ourselves. As a result one often draws these types of
experiences towards themselves repeatedly. 'Unpleasant' experiences
only comes in response to what we only deny within ourselves. When
denials are identified, and gently released, we no longer draw to
ourselves the kind of experiences we don't want to have.
Changing our perception of the past really does change the present,
create the future, and lead us to a more productive balanced life.
What can be done about negative self-image and denial: a technique is
employed that identifies the age and event that caused an experience,
which resulted in the negative self-image and denial.
Then – gently using guided imagery and acupressure points the energy
blockage is released. The 'magnetic' charge that draws us to those
negative experiences is gone. Unpleasantness is drawn to us only in
response to what we've denied or judged negatively.
A picturing of the desired event and happenings in present time is the
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